Anonymous asked: hey uncle mod, how did could you tell you were ace/aro? i'm pretty sure i'm ace, but i'm having trouble figuring out the difference between having romantic crushes on people or just like...wanting to be their friend? i am very confused
well for me it was just kinda, straight forward? I never had a crush on anyone and only said yes to people who asked me out because I didn’t want to be rude- of course, I eventually realized that accepting when I had no ability to return those feelings was more rude, to both them and to myself! anyway, every discovery and journey is different so I can’t answer that question for you friend, be patient with yourself and allow yourself time to observe your feelings