Eesh, well pal this is a hard one to answer because I don’t know your specific circumstances, but I’m really sorry she made you feel terrible whatever the situation is. As for me, I have had to accept that there are certain things I can no longer do/will never do again, but even if I miss those aspects of life I have to be happy with the fact that I was able to experience them when I did and cherish the memories I have. I’ve had to tailor my life according to what I am able to cope with, and will have to continue to do so; living with a condition like EDS is about compromise, and finding smarter ways to do things so that I don’t burn out. This can be as simple as using two hands (and an oven glove) to pick up and pour the kettle, and it can be as complicated as learning to draw with both my hands instead of just my right. I don’t know if I’ll be able to keep drawing forever, but I will keep drawing as long as I can, and in order to do that I have to accept when I need to stop, and consider what else I can give up in order to keep drawing- even if that part is very frustrating and a little sad. It’s all give and take, but I want to keep giving, so I’ll do whatever I can to keep doing that (and anyway my brain would probably like, explode if I didn’t get these stories out of my system somehow and it would suck to have to that mess clean up).